Is love really fate?

I have been thinking this for hours, days, months and years. Is love really fate? The ideology of love is that when a boy is in love with a girl and would do anything to be with her, vice-versa. However, is it really fate? What i mean is if the girl or boy you meet done by fate or is it actually done by your actions? Do actually plan love? Or does love come to you? I claimed every time i think of a girl for a long time means i love her. When i dream, i would simulate in my mind that she was actually thinking of me or wanting to talk to me but is shy. However, in reality things turn out soo differently than what i thought in a dream. The girls don't seem to come out as what i pictured. I kept telling myself that one day a girl that i love would actually love me back. First girl i ever interacted with and liked a lot already had a relationship before i actually found her through a social website which was 8years after i did not see her. In that 8 years that i have not seen her, i actually thought of her and planned on making her my girlfriend and continue what we had not finished. I even thought that she would also be thinking of me and trying to find details and whereabouts of me. As i got her details though, she did not seem to care much about anything when i typed to her. I felt really strange inside me. Did she really forget me completely, or has she not had any interest in me at all. just as i wanted to ask her out, she told me she wasn't in the country i was anymore and that she had gone back to her hometown to continue her studies. She told me she might come back to finish the university. The feeling that i felt on the way she typed really broke my heart. I did not dare to type to her anymore.This was definitely not fate in my opinion. Well same thing happens to my secondary school crush. I met this girl on my first year of school when i saw her as a unique individual because she was the girl that caught my eye and was the first girl that new school that i could not stop staring at. The pinnacle of the crush was in secondary school after a classmate of mine starting spreading rumours that i liked her. Everyone in the school knew about it and i started getting attention from the entire school. Even people that i did not know knew who i had a crush on. One day, during recess, i asked her for her number, she completely rejected me and ended up with her friend writing the number on my hand. However, i did not remember that number because i knew it did not came from her. As soon as i reached secondary three, my friend rumoured with me that she was going to end up in my class. At that time i took the chance for granted and actually did not talk to her or find a chance to talk to her. I wonder if that was fate that she ended up in the same class as me or was it just that we had the same standard in terms of our results. Well, it did not really matter much as that was the time when i dated a girl with the longest hair in class at that time, which currently is one of her best friends now. I wonder if that was a sign if she actually liked me. I don't know but during that time as well she never showed any signs of liking me at all which made me thought that she had 0 interest in me which till now i am still wondering if she actually didn't want to talk or if she was just too shy to talk to me. But why me? Why was i the one of all the other guys in the school which she never spoke to? This i wonder, is it fate or was it just bad luck. Was something trying to tell me to completely give up on her or not to give up on her. Well, the girl i dated ended up with my friend who came from China and they later broke up as well. Well, as for the girl i had a crush on, we actually went out on an outing together. However, we really didn't talk to each other once in the outing. I really wanted her to talk to me but i knew it was better for me to keep quiet and respect a girls decision. The strange thing thought was that she kept taking pictures of me which was the awkward part as i did not expect soo many pictures to consist of me. That was the time when i actually thought about her hard again. Then i moved to overseas to study. I actually wrote to her in the internet and she responded back but the problem was, she wrote in a way which she wants to end the conversation as soon as possible with lol, haha, ok. That was one of the saddest feelings after i knew i would get rejected if i continued to type to her. So i stopped typing to her. Every year on my birthday, she did not ever said happy birthday to me. She would rather do it on someone else. Well, guess thats no longer fate in my opinion but, a strange feeling told me that she actually wanted me to start a conversation with her. Well, i don't know if love is really fate is it just a saying to make people believe it is fate so that people might think they have a higher chance of getting the girl they have a crush on. Well, personally i feel that only the best looking individual with an intellectual mind could end up with anyone they want. Still, i watched a lot of movies about love being fated(yes it is a movie, but it is possible to apply to real life as well). I wish though that my life could be a movie for once, i want to feel like how the characters in the story feel. I want to do things that is only possible in a movie. I want to really want to feel, touch, see and enjoy love for once like how the characters felt in the movie. Well, i will end this post for now. I might continue this as this is actually not the end of the post. Well i want you to think for yourself, is it actually fate that made you end up with the person u like or was it just because of your sheer confidence or the other parties confidence that made you end up with each other. Whatever it is, the choice is yours to make.